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Monthly Archives: August 2012

OFFRIENDED

A one less friend person states: I think it’s extremely offensive to be de-friended on facebook without being told why.  Someone de-friended me, blocked me from seeing they’re on there (I know they are, because we have a mutual friend and they told me), and didn’t say a word about it. LISTEN: Your friend sounds […]

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WHAT’S YOURS?

A security minded reminder: What do you say to someone who asks you more information than you think they need?  Not like a person at a party who asks how much something costs, more like a salesperson who asks things like your social security number, zip code and/or date of birth.  If it isn’t salient […]

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A LITTLE DAB

A frustrated corespondent writes: I have a fairly close friend who is really intense.  Everything he says is really opinionated, sometimes vulgar, frequently abrasive.  He’s really funny, and really kind at heart, but sometimes I just can’t stand to “hang out” with him.  It’s like he’s always on “stage”.  Can’t he tone it down a […]

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FEELGOOD M.D.

An inappropriate situation: My husband (a doctor) and I had a meeting earlier this week with two business partners, one of them a woman, and she leered at him all through the meeting.  What should I do? LISTEN: Ask her to join you in a ménage à trois?

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DIRTY KITTY

An allergenic assumption: I recently took a road trip and spent several days visiting old friends.  One of them had a cat, and I’m allergic.  Before I left, I asked every person I was going to stay with about their pets, offering to stay in a hotel, and no one else had a cat so […]

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GALATEO

Here’s a little slice of advice from a man who knew a thing or two: Il Galateo Di da Vinci He should not place his head upon his plate to eat. Neither should he sit beneath the table for any length of time. He should not place unpleasing or half-chewed pieces of his own food […]

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ACT NOW

A question of time: Is it polite to hang up on telemarketers?  What if they just start talking and don’t give you the opportunity to decline? LISTEN: Why yes, of course it is.  Why shouldn’t it be? I have a friend who devised a delightful time waster for them.  When they ask for her by […]

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FREE DELIVERY*

A mercantile exploration from an intrepid online shopper: I recently purchased a piece of furniture on craigslist.  I got the cash, drove to the location (the parking lot of a big box store) at the appointed time and waited.  And waited.  And they never showed up. And from the purveyor of fine goods: What do […]

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IS THE POPE CATHOLIC?

A thoughtful inquisition: Is it polite to discretely inform a stranger if part of their attire is amiss – meaning, if their fly is down, or their tag is sticking out of their shirt?  Is it polite to tell someone if something is amiss with their personal appearance – such as food in their teeth, […]

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ASSEYEZ-VOUS!

A frisky hostess asks: When invited to a dinner party that’s relatively casual with no assigned seats, where is the proper place to sit?  And, what if the host/hostess states that you may sit wherever you please, are there seats that are understood to be the hosts’ seats, or are all the places at the […]

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