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XERXES IN BLUE JEANS

An economically disadvantaged discussion: I have a friend who recently came into a great deal of money.  It wasn’t the lottery, but years of hard work that paid off dramatically.  Now he can afford much nicer things, and I find myself insecure about returning any kind of hospitality.  He’s never said anything one way or […]

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V O T I N G N I T O V

A concerned commentary: I thought this stupid blog was supposed to be about etiquette.  What’s with the voting crap? LISTEN: The real issue, my dearest friend, is that ultimately it is my blog, so if I wander around a bit, tough tits. But since you mentioned it, let me just say this: I don’t care who […]

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HOT HOUSE

A delightful question: What is the right thing to buy for a housewarming present when the people have everything they need already? LISTEN: Most people would default to a scented (stinking) candle, so I appreciate your asking.  The traditional gifts are bread and salt, though symbolic gifts could include coins, knives and wine. Think about […]

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DIS N DAT

A wronged reader writes: When is it appropriate to end a friendship?  There is someone in my life who has gotten so mean-spirited and ridiculous…I just don’t know if it’s ever OK to say you don’t want to be friends with someone. LISTEN: Of course it is.  I mean, think of the alternate scenario…would you […]

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OFFRIENDED

A one less friend person states: I think it’s extremely offensive to be de-friended on facebook without being told why.  Someone de-friended me, blocked me from seeing they’re on there (I know they are, because we have a mutual friend and they told me), and didn’t say a word about it. LISTEN: Your friend sounds […]

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YOU CAN’T SPELL “DIVORCE” WITHOUT D-I-E

An inconsolable reader writes: I’m at the age now where fully half my friends are divorced.  Some of them are remarried already.  Some of them are single, and acting like it.  That’s great and all, but I don’t have any desire to relive my single life.  I’m happily married, and I feel like I’m starting […]

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DON’T EVER LOOK BACK

A heartbroken letter writer writes: My girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago and I can’t get her out of my mind.  She won’t return my calls or texts or emails.  How can I win her back? LISTEN: You probably can’t, but that won’t stop you trying. Look, I don’t know what broke the […]

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MAY I SHOW YOU THE WAY OUT?

A pertinent question: How do you tell someone, in the most polite way possible, that you don’t like anything about their personality and don’t ever want to see or hear them again? LISTEN:  By saying nothing.  Nothing really. There is no polite way to tell someone – anyone – that you don’t like anything about their personality […]

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