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Category Archives: Introductions

TAG, YOU’RE IT

A dissenting opinion: I think people should just wear name tags at parties.  That way you don’t have to remember people’s names and you can learn them slowly as you talk to them.  You could wear name tags at meetings, too.  Don’t you think that’s a good idea that would solve the problem? LISTEN: Nope. […]

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NOMEN OBLITUM

A question from the absent minded: Is it that bad to forget someone’s name?  I’m terrible with names, and sometimes people get really mad at me.  What can I do to make people feel better? LISTEN: You could start by remembering their names.  That should do it. Second, you could stop telling yourself you’re terrible […]

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ANTS ON A LOG

Conversation interruptus: I was at a bar with a friend who I get to see maybe once a month.  We like to hang out for a couple of hours after work, catch up, talk about our day, ideas, etc., and have a few whiskeys.  In the middle of the conversation, this other guy came up, […]

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ALL IS FULL OF LOVE

Or full of shit. When you encounter someone – say, at a cocktail party – who says that their only motivation is to help others, you should excuse yourself immediately and go help yourself.  To another drink. Otherwise you are in for a wonderful night of passive-aggressive accusations that you, yourself, are not open to love, […]

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NUDE RULES

A most welcoming hostess asks: What’s the etiquette for a three-way? LISTEN: Oh, you kids and your new technology.  The most important thing is to let both parties know they’re on the call…hold on a minute – – OK, I’m back.  You meant a ménage à trois, didn’t you?  Conveniently, it isn’t all that much different from a […]

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OH MAN, YOU’RE BREAKING MY HEART

An incensed reader complains: For an etiquette blog you’re (sic) advice is kind of rude.  I guess those who can’t do teach. LISTEN: First of all, you’ve misplaced your comma.  You’ve accidentally turned it upside down and used it an apostrophe. Second, you have an extra e there.  Let’s see if I can find a use […]

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PUT YOUR HANDS UP

A misplaced soul suggests: I am on a small volunteer committee for the county, about 10 people.  I joined a few months ago, and we only meet once a month, so I don’t know anyone’s name!  I was introduced at my first meeting, but after that a month passed before I saw anyone again.  I […]

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THE CURE FOR WHAT AILS YA

An inebriated inquiry: I have small dinners at home with some frequency – me, my partner, two close friends and then two newer friends – people we’d like to get to know and who we think everyone would get along with.  I take a great deal of care creating a new menu for each dinner, […]

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CHI IL BEL SOGNO

An exasperating introduction: I was at a fête last night and I was introduced to a woman who, not rudely, turned away quickly to talk to someone else she knew.  It was a fleeting introduction, like these things can be, with people swirling all around.  Anyway, at the end of the night I went to say […]

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SERVIEEEEWWWW…

An understated and understood undoing: I can not believe I am writing this.  I went to dinner at the home of a new aquaintance (sic) who is a rather eccentric artist.  The food was good but wierdly (sic) prepared.  Things like sweet potatoes stuffed with poached fish and salad made out of raw beets.  Anyway, […]

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