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Category Archives: Timing is Everything

THE CURE FOR WHAT AILS YA

An inebriated inquiry: I have small dinners at home with some frequency – me, my partner, two close friends and then two newer friends – people we’d like to get to know and who we think everyone would get along with.  I take a great deal of care creating a new menu for each dinner, […]

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BLANK SLATE

A terrible human being asks an incredibly stupid question: Yesterday I had plans with a friend, and I inadvertently made plans with another.  As soon as I remembered, I called the second friend back, and now she’s really mad at me!  I don’t know why, because it’s not like this is the first time I’ve […]

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MOOD VERY BAD

A sleepy soldiering on: How do you make people leave your house when it’s “time”?  My wife’s co-workers come over every once in a while and stay until waaaay after I’m ready to go to bed. LISTEN: I don’t see where one has to do with another.  Go to bed, then – let your wife […]

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FEELGOOD M.D.

An inappropriate situation: My husband (a doctor) and I had a meeting earlier this week with two business partners, one of them a woman, and she leered at him all through the meeting.  What should I do? LISTEN: Ask her to join you in a ménage à trois?

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IS THE POPE CATHOLIC?

A thoughtful inquisition: Is it polite to discretely inform a stranger if part of their attire is amiss – meaning, if their fly is down, or their tag is sticking out of their shirt?  Is it polite to tell someone if something is amiss with their personal appearance – such as food in their teeth, […]

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YNTQ

A curious question: I have a friend who isn’t employed, and bugs me all day with text messages.  What can I tell her to make her stop?  I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but when I’m busy – I’m really busy! LISTEN: “Sweetheart…I love you, but I’m really busy,”  – wait for it – […]

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CHURCH WHISPER

An indignant reaction reported thusly: I was visiting one of my oldest friends and her husband in South Carolina, and they invited me to church.  While we were both raised Catholic, I am lapsed and very liberal.  I knew I shouldn’t go – it was a Southern Baptist church – but I didn’t want to […]

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CHEERS

A vexed hostess asks: If you host a party, and have a particular guest trying to monopolize your time, what should you do? LISTEN: Oooh – good question. That’s going to depend on why he is monopolizing your time. If it’s because he doesn’t know anyone, then you need to introduce him to someone you […]

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CUM GRANO SALIS

A genial inquisition: Which is worse: To let a species go extinct, or to lick your fingers at the dinner table? LISTEN: That depends – is it a formal dinner?

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MENJA BÉ

A note of disbelief: I’m not a religious person, more atheist than agnostic actually.  I can’t stand it when I’m eating with other people and they want to pray before a meal.  Can I ask them not to pray?  If I don’t hold hands and bow my head and all that they ask about it […]

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