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Category Archives: Unpleasant Facts of Life

MYOB

A delicate flower wiltingly asks: I have recently found out that a new friend of mine is Mormon.  He never mentioned it before, and I don’t know how I feel about it.  Not just the strangeness of the religion, but the intolerant social policies the church espouses.  What should I say?  Now I feel uncomfortable […]

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LIKE A ROCK

Back-aching, a guest writes: I recently stayed with a friend (of a friend) who had a sleeper sofa.  It was a new, very expensive thing from a designer store, and he was obviously quite proud of it…but it was horribly uncomfortable.  That morning, he asked me how I slept, and I’m afraid I was honest […]

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TAG, YOU’RE IT

A dissenting opinion: I think people should just wear name tags at parties.  That way you don’t have to remember people’s names and you can learn them slowly as you talk to them.  You could wear name tags at meetings, too.  Don’t you think that’s a good idea that would solve the problem? LISTEN: Nope. […]

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FORENSIC ETIQUETTE

Excavating the ruins of a friendship or a relationship is always tricky.  The classic line of He said / She said morphed somehow into Sex, Lies and Videotape – one imagines it was the advent of videotape, as sexing and lying have been quite popular for some time – and now you can’t get away […]

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OH MAN, YOU’RE BREAKING MY HEART

An incensed reader complains: For an etiquette blog you’re (sic) advice is kind of rude.  I guess those who can’t do teach. LISTEN: First of all, you’ve misplaced your comma.  You’ve accidentally turned it upside down and used it an apostrophe. Second, you have an extra e there.  Let’s see if I can find a use […]

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BABY BABY BABY OH

YNTQ has a fever, and doesn’t feel like writing much today. I suggest you take the time off from scouring this site for pearls of information and go vote. http://www.ncsl.org/legislatures-elections/elections/absentee-and-early-voting.aspx More later this week. YNTQ

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BROKEN RECORD

A complaint: I’m having a fight with a friend – she said something pretty mean-spirited to me when we were hanging out, and now she’s saying she said no such thing.  Then she said she had said something sarcastic, not the same thing I remember, and we both laughed about it.  I know I didn’t […]

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RAVE ON

An unfriendly friend freaks out: I have a friend on facebook – and a friendly acquaintance in real life – who is in the same line of work that I am in, though in a completely different school of thought (in our field).  He frequently, almost exclusively – posts condescending remarks about my segment of […]

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UNPLEASANT DREAMS

A ticked-off parent hovers nearby, screeching: One of my neighbors has put up Halloween decorations that I think are just completely inappropriate.  Can I tell him to “tone it down” or “take them down?”  I don’t want to have to explain to my children why there is so much disgusting stuff hanging off his house. […]

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STOP IT

“We’ll deal with that tomorrow…” Or the Next Day Or the next.  Sigh.  Time slips away. OK…a recap: According to our most recent correspondent – dinner guests show up: They criticized the size of our house, saying it was too small.  They didn’t like our dog, they called the china kitschy, and said how nice […]

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